Monday, December 3, 2012 at 8:00 AM
Most people want to do good work but sometimes “good” isn’t “good enough.” No one knows that better than perfectionists. Their uncompromising drive can lead to great achievement – and to a certain kind of misery. ideastream's Anne Glausser prepared this pretty good - maybe not perfect - report.
Want to land a man on the moon?
TAPE: That’s one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.
Need brain surgery?
TAPE: It’s alive. It’s alive. It’s alive.
Want to have the tightest horns and sax band ever?
TAPE: Music of James Brown
Yep, with some things in life there’s no substitute for a perfectionist. Merely “doing your best” won’t cut it. It didn’t for James Brown or Neil Armstrong or Doctor Frankenstein. They relentlessly pushed themselves again and again. And we’re all the better for it…well maybe Frankenstein is a stretch. Let’s substitute Steve Jobs.
TAPE: iPhone announcement
Perfectionism. Some people feel its pull in nearly everything they do – even in mundane activities like painting their nails.
THOMPSON: I’ll notice little things like I didn’t reach the cuticle--things that like literally no one else could physically see because it’s too far away.
For Morgan Thompson, a cognitive sciences student at Case Western Reserve University, the black nail polish she was wearing the other day didn’t appear smooth enough; the brushstrokes weren’t right. So, before going out the door, she started over and painted them again. She can get hung up on other small stuff too - like a minor purchase – and the bigger stuff. It can be exhausting.
THOMPSON: There’ll be times when I’m writing a paper and I’m retyping the same sentence over and over and over…I’ll spend an hour and have only a paragraph done…. With everything that I make I’ll focus in on here’s where I messed up.
Some perfectionists excel, as Thompson has academically, but still doubt their accomplishments. Where does this come from?
PRZEWORSKI: It definitely runs in families--there’s no question about that.
Amy Przeworski is a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University who’s researched the subject. She says there’s evidence that perfectionist tendencies may be inherited; it’s one of those murky mixtures between nature and nurture, genes and environment. Many are quite comfortable in their own skin.
PRZEWORSKI: You’re motivated, you’re striving, you’re achievement oriented, you have goals and work towards the goals. So it can be something incredibly helpful to you.
It gets more problematic when someone feels the need to be perfect all the time.
PRZEWORSKI: So there is a link between perfectionism and not being able to achieve the goals you want to achieve and it can certainly get in the way.
Przeworski, a recovering perfectionist herself, recommends intentional mistakes as one way to cope.
PRZEWORSKI: I’m not saying you bomb an exam…but you just leave these little imperfections in things. So when I write a paper and it’s something that’s going to be published and notice oh there should have been a comma there, I deliberately leave it.
Same thing with a bit of cat hair on her blazer.
PRZEWORSKI: And I probably have--yep I have--got some mud on my boots too, so there you go as well.
A simple tool to break the obsession of perfectionism. Of course, some say trying to “manage” perfectionism is a lot of hooey. The bigger problem, they say, is setting our sites too low--I guess we know who “they” are.
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