Posted Wednesday, August 18, 2010
When a woman finally decides to leave an abusive man, she has just entered the most dangerous period of the relationship. How does she get out without becoming badly injured or worse -- as we have seen in two recent cases in Cleveland -- killed? Wednesday on the Sound of Ideas, we'll talk with advocates for battered women, learn what tools exist for them to protect themselves and hear about a new idea to bring services for abused women together under one roof. Protecting abused women, Wednesday at 9 on 90.3.
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To receive help from Jewish Family Service Association's Family violence programs: call (216) 292 3999.
To receive help from the Domestic Violence Center of Cleveland: call (216) 391-4357.
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This discussion is absolutely sexist. Are women the only ones who can be victims of domestic violence? No. I have never raised my hand against a woman, and have been physically attacked by two different women. I had to call the cops once, and they assumed that I was at fault.
We need to re-think this, and just say that it is never acceptable to attack another human.
can your guests please talk about some of the things a woman can do to avoid getting involved with abusive men...what are the signs to look for before the relationships gets too “serious”.
To receive help from Jewish Family Serice association’s Family violence programs please contact us at 216 292 3999.
This is Linda Johanek, Executive Director of Domestic Violence Center and one of the guests on the show this morning. I would like to respond to Tom’s comment. It is my belief that more men in this world are kind, loving and respectful than not. And that is very important to note. In the field of domestic violence cases, it is very clear, in our expereince as well as research indications, that domestic violence victims are primarily female (70% or more) with male offenders. Yes, we serve male victims, and yes there is DV in same sex relationships. Historically, women have taken up this cause, and the Domestic Violence Center continually seeks to get more men involved as positive role models for other men and for the young boys who are in need of these important role models.
To answer Denise’s question, there are definitely red flags to an abusive relationship that we all need to be aware of. Does your partner:
embarrass you in front of others?
belittle your accomplishments?
make you feel unworthy?
constantly contradict him/herself to confuse you?
do things for which you are constantly making excuses to others, or yourself?
isolate you from many of the people you care most about?
make you feel ashamed most of the time?
make you believe he/she is smarter than you and therefore, more able to make decisions?
make you perform acts that are demeaning to you?
use intimidation to make you do what he/she wants?
prevent you from going or doing common activities such as shopping, visiting friends and family, and talking to the opposite sex?
control the financial aspects of your life?
use money as a way of controlling you?
make you believe that you cannot exist without him/her?
make you feel there is no way out?
make you find ways of compromising your feelings for the sake of peace?
treat you roughly, grab, pinch, push or shove you?
threaten you verbally, or with a weapon?
hold you to keep you from leaving during or after an argument?
lose control when he/she is using alcohol or other substances?
get angry frequently without an apparent cause?
allow anger to escalate into violence?
not believe that he/she hurt you or not feel sorry for what has happened?
physically force you to do things you don’t want to?
believe you can help your partner to change the abusive behavior if you were only to change yourself?
find that not making him/her angry has become a major part of your life?
do what he/she wants you to do out of fear rather than what you want to do?
stay with him/her only because you fear he/she will hurt you if you leave or tell someone?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, you may be in abusive relationship. Help, support and information are available to you through the Domestic Violence Center. Please, call our confidential 24-hour hotline at 216-391-HELP.
For more information, visit www.domesticviolencecenter.org